I see you and I hear you. You are not alone and there is hope in healing. This journey is worth it, you are worth it, and it is possible!

“All my life I’ve tried to make everybody happy while I just hurt and hide, waiting for someone to tell me it’s my turn to decide.”

-Sara Bareilles (King of Anything)

It’s Your Turn to Decide!

I know what it feels like to abandon yourself and give everyone else what you think they need and maybe even what they expect, so that they approve of you. I’ve also felt the hardships and rewards of parenting, as I have children of my own and a beautifully blended family as well. I’ve felt used by others, compromised and underappreciate in the workplace. I have felt, shame, guilt, anxiety, grief, frustration, loneliness and depression. I get it, I’ve been there, and I want share with you and with the world the tools, knowledge and the peace that I’ve experienced through Somatic Trauma-Informed Healing. Understanding how my nervous system responds to trauma and stress was THE GAME CHANGER for me and it made all the difference in my healing. We can’t just talk through the past; we have to allow space to feel it too. There is so much potential for growth. I want to empower you with the inner strength you possess to self-heal. Your energy is sacred, and you are worth every bit of this journey, and it is Your Turn to Decide.

I hate the term Mid-Life Crisis….

Quite some years ago, I began this incredible yet challenging journey to Find myself again, hence the name of my business ‘Finding Me, Trauma Free.’ Some may have labeled it a midlife crisis (…and let me know if you can relate to those judgments…) However, with my renewed perceptions, using a Trauma-informed lens, I now refer to it as “my personal journey of growth through deep reflection, emotional connection, accepting accountability and vital awareness of my own core wounds.” This journey opened my eyes to the toxic people and environment that I had surrounded myself with and the damage it was causing to my mental, physical, emotional and even spiritual wellbeing. I learned to set healthy boundaries, to say no, to step into self-leadership and to accept my own negative behavior patterns that were simply spotlighting those deep core wounds that needed healing. I learned to forgive myself and to love me just for being me without anyone’s approval or permission. I’ve accepted that the shame, guilt and expectations that others project onto me, is their own trauma and not a reflection of me. I’ve learned to breathe and to regulate my nervous system to stay in the present moment. I’ve never felt more at peace in my life (but don’t get me wrong…life is still full of challenges.) I feel relief and calm and full of anticipation for what my renewed sense of self can and will experience in life, and most importantly, I’ve learned how to better respond to challenges when they arise. I want to help you feel all of this too!

People are my Passion!

I have worked closely with people in many different capacities throughout my life. Some of my cherished experiences have been supporting people of all ages with different disabilities. I have been a certified AFFA and NASM personal trainer and coach in the fitness and health industry on and off for the past 20 years. I’ve also worked in customer service where I’ve witnessed many of the unseen wounds that people carry with them daily. (This experience truly opened my eyes to how much hurt is in the world and how it affects the behaviors and reactions to others out in the community.) I love connecting with people and I want to contribute to creating a society with less shame, less judgement and less criticism of ourselves and of others. At the end of the day, what matters is how YOU FEEL about YOU, how you want to live your life and who you allow in your circle to support your authentic beautiful self. I empathize with that feeling of losing yourself and feeling stuck. It’s time to find you and reconnect to the beautiful human you are meant to be. Ask me how.